Do your part 2

They say you attract what you are. Well I don’t know much about that since I was taught the law of magnetism.  

I am not a philosopher but the problem with the society is we’ve left everything to be handled by someone else. That someone else is never us. We believe someone will come and do it. That’s why we carelessly dispose trash anywhere as long as it’s not in our house floor. Even if it’s on our floor, someone else will clean it up.

So does it make me less of a man when I can’t provide what she wants when she wants. When she earns more than me or has more papers than me and a Dr. title to boot? When I cannot sire children with her? When she is older or taller or bigger in size than me, where she becomes more physically imposing than me? What defines a man? 

Contrary to the notion that men don’t go through stuff, let me dispel it by saying Men do hurt silently. That’s why I recommend the program, “Man Enough” to all men (not that have done it but have registered to do it). Men suffer when their ego is killed.

Why do we have to punish independent (as in those who don’t really depend on their man’s money)  women for their success? You might be wondering how do we, men, do punish women in this way? Well, when you ignore pursuing her because you say she’s more learned, earns more and drives a bigger car than you.

My remedy to this issue: if it works for you don’t compare with an ideal where you want her to earn less than you. Don’t raise problems that are not there if you are already in a relationship? If she’s okay with it, let it push you to achieve more … Not that it’s a competition but I don’t think you should just be found where you were 5 years ago. Its a different ball game if she’s putting you down every chance that she gets reminding you of the superiority over you. If you are a believer, pray that God will convict her and as you pray, act by loving her. Let her get to a point where she wonders how does he still treat me with love.

Now what if you not in a relationship… I say go for it. What’s the worst that could happen? She says no? Well, as the adage goes, a faint heart never won a fair lady. Work on your self esteem first and then show your vision to her, lay down your manifesto, if she agrees and buys into it, you got a good thing and will obtain favor from the Lord.

 

 

 

 

 

Submit to one another…not only does the wife submit but there will be times where you as the man submit. Case in point, agreeing that she’s right when she makes a point. Read my post on As Christ loves the church

Ephesians 5:21-33English Standard Version (ESV)

21 submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Wives and Husbands

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.

Submit to one another…not only does the wife submit but there will be times where you as the man submit. Case in point, agreeing that she’s right when she makes a point. Read my post on As 

 

Christ loves the church

 

Ephesians 5:21-33English Standard Version (ESV)

21 submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Wives and Husbands

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.

Prayer:

Lord God,  thank you for sending your son, Jesus Christ, to die on the cross for me and the one who’s reading this article. I thank you that you made us both male and female in your own likeness. Thank you that you made us to coexist together and live peaceably with all. Would you lead us to our mates for those who are not married and may you grant your grace to those already in a relationship that they’ll learn to love and submit to one another as you love us.

Lord I pray this in the most holy name of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, AMEN

© Caleb Bett and living water and bread of life, 2016. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Caleb Bett and living water and bread of life, 2016 with appropriate and specific direction to the original content

 

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